If you want to remain close to your daughter, and any potential children she and your future son-in-law may have together, it’s important that you “make nice” with your future son-in-law while you still can. Here’s a few tips to help you get along with your future son-in-law.
Always treat your future son-in-law as an adult. Remember, he is not your child, so don’t treat him as such.
Let your daughter and future son-in-law plan their own nuptials, even if you do happen to be paying for the wedding. It’s okay to give advice every now and again, as long as you don’t go overboard.
Avoid getting involved in the couple’s arguments. Couples fight. If you want your daughter, and especially your future son-in-law, to respect you, don’t include yourself or your opinion(s) in their arguments. Giving the couple their own space is one of the best ways you can get along with your future son-in-law.
Learn to forgive and forget. You are not perfect. Your future son-in-law will not be perfect. There will be times when both you and your future son-in-law say or do hurtful things to each other. If your relationship with your daughter is important, you’re going to need to learn how to forgive and forget past hurts or mistakes. Refusing to forgive yourself or your son-in-law can damage your relationship with your daughter.
Avoid gossiping about your future son-in-law. Gossip has a way of getting back to the person you are gossiping about. If you don’t want your future son-in-law to hate you, avoid gossiping about him behind his back.
Learn to let go of some things. Once your daughter marries, you will no longer be able to spend every holiday, birthday or special occasion in her company.
Contrary to what many people believe, it is possible to be friends with your in-laws. As the mother of the bride, it’s your responsibility to get along with your future son-in-law. While no one can force you to like your future son-in-law, it’s imperative that you treat him the way you would want to be treated.